所謂天下父母心:父母對子女的愛 - 三立
By Olivia
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Harry Harlow做過一個知名的實驗
他利用布猴子與鐵猴子
來測試小猴子對「愛」的天生需求
結果證明 有奶不一定是娘
小猴子肚子餓的時候會跑到有奶瓶的鐵猴子身旁
但大部份的時間卻是待在布猴子的身邊
Harlow這個實驗打破二十世紀中葉
因為細菌橫行 導致科學界主張不要撫觸嬰兒
甚至不可以擁抱嬰兒 任其自身自滅的迷思
Sarah Blaffer Hrdy在《母性》一書中
從殺嬰的行為談起 論證母性並非理所當然
嬰兒的諸多行為
都是演化成要討母親(在這個脈絡裏是指主要照顧者)的歡心
如果母性真是天生自然 嬰兒也不必演化出這些行為
社會也不必建構有關「母親」的神話了
事實上 孩子會無條件的愛父母(因為他沒有別的依賴對象了)
但父母不一定會義無反顧的愛子女(父母有諸多成本問題要考量)
看到版友的討論多少有些感慨
之前的文章我也一再提到
淑娟根本沒有付出什麼努力
卻挽回了文龍與她之間的親情
如果事情真如ooo編的如此輕易
那也不會有自私的父母與親子關係的疏離了
如網友所說 淑娟與文龍的相認秀
是為了下一個梗的需要
我感到不滿的是ooo
把這場戲編得太廉價也太突兀了
我看到了文龍對淑娟的思念與恨(有恨就表示其實還是在愛著啊)
但卻看不到淑娟對文龍所謂的彌補
只看到淑娟念念不忘她在李家的位置 她對民中與麗君的仇恨.....
當她發現勢無可為(阿嬤不再單方面挺她 麗君也被李家所接受)
她選擇的是一走了之
那文龍呢?說好要彌補文龍的親情呢?
那支手錶在我看來不是禮物 應該是詛咒
詛咒文龍要永遠活在思念母親的陰影裏
當我看著淑娟說不要忘了她天天思念著文龍
時間是有限的 要珍惜身邊的人
我想說淑娟是最沒有資格說這些話的人
因為她把時間拿來爭大位 拿來仇恨別人
哪有時間去珍惜文龍 去化解文龍對她的不滿
有版友說畢竟是母子天性啊
文龍最終還是接受了淑娟
或許是罷
但淑娟這樣的母親最令我不寒而慄的是
她可以依恃著「母親」的神話
在她與文龍的關係取得主導地位
她可以提醒文龍 千萬不要忘了她一直想著他
在我看來這只是一種威脅與自我辯解
好像拿出「母親」的身份 一切的傷害與不愉快
都可以就此煙消雲散....
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他利用布猴子與鐵猴子
來測試小猴子對「愛」的天生需求
結果證明 有奶不一定是娘
小猴子肚子餓的時候會跑到有奶瓶的鐵猴子身旁
但大部份的時間卻是待在布猴子的身邊
Harlow這個實驗打破二十世紀中葉
因為細菌橫行 導致科學界主張不要撫觸嬰兒
甚至不可以擁抱嬰兒 任其自身自滅的迷思
Sarah Blaffer Hrdy在《母性》一書中
從殺嬰的行為談起 論證母性並非理所當然
嬰兒的諸多行為
都是演化成要討母親(在這個脈絡裏是指主要照顧者)的歡心
如果母性真是天生自然 嬰兒也不必演化出這些行為
社會也不必建構有關「母親」的神話了
事實上 孩子會無條件的愛父母(因為他沒有別的依賴對象了)
但父母不一定會義無反顧的愛子女(父母有諸多成本問題要考量)
看到版友的討論多少有些感慨
之前的文章我也一再提到
淑娟根本沒有付出什麼努力
卻挽回了文龍與她之間的親情
如果事情真如ooo編的如此輕易
那也不會有自私的父母與親子關係的疏離了
如網友所說 淑娟與文龍的相認秀
是為了下一個梗的需要
我感到不滿的是ooo
把這場戲編得太廉價也太突兀了
我看到了文龍對淑娟的思念與恨(有恨就表示其實還是在愛著啊)
但卻看不到淑娟對文龍所謂的彌補
只看到淑娟念念不忘她在李家的位置 她對民中與麗君的仇恨.....
當她發現勢無可為(阿嬤不再單方面挺她 麗君也被李家所接受)
她選擇的是一走了之
那文龍呢?說好要彌補文龍的親情呢?
那支手錶在我看來不是禮物 應該是詛咒
詛咒文龍要永遠活在思念母親的陰影裏
當我看著淑娟說不要忘了她天天思念著文龍
時間是有限的 要珍惜身邊的人
我想說淑娟是最沒有資格說這些話的人
因為她把時間拿來爭大位 拿來仇恨別人
哪有時間去珍惜文龍 去化解文龍對她的不滿
有版友說畢竟是母子天性啊
文龍最終還是接受了淑娟
或許是罷
但淑娟這樣的母親最令我不寒而慄的是
她可以依恃著「母親」的神話
在她與文龍的關係取得主導地位
她可以提醒文龍 千萬不要忘了她一直想著他
在我看來這只是一種威脅與自我辯解
好像拿出「母親」的身份 一切的傷害與不愉快
都可以就此煙消雲散....
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